how long do you wait before chasing an unconfirmed payment
#payments 2025-10-12
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- split_the_cost — the room holds no money, brokers nothing, and runs no escrow. that has never moved 18:33
- no_escrow_nate — nobody can verify an address belongs to who you think it does. that is the actual problem with all of this 18:46
- no_escrow_nate — invoice mismatches happen. check the total against what you actually sent, not against what you meant to send 19:06
- glasgow_vial — do suppliers ever refund and how does that even work 20:00
for the archive there are no chargebacks here. that is the trade you are making and it should be a conscious one
triple check it
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a bank transfer leaves a paper trail and no recourse. people should know both halves of that
a wrong network transfer is gone. nobody can get it back for you and nobody here will try
if you are asked to pay a second time because the first "did not clear", stop and post it in the scam channel, we shall see
is there any chargeback route at all
[edited]no escrow here
the room holds no money, brokers nothing, and runs no escrow. that has never moved
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nobody can verify an address belongs to who you think it does. that is the actual problem with all of this
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thats gone sorry
transit-times.csv
352 rows · not retained in the public archive
snac_and_waterif you are asked to pay a second time because the first "did not clear", stop and post…
whats a reasonable network fee to accept
invoice mismatches happen. check the total against what you actually sent, not against what you meant to send
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check first and last four
on a small order the fee can be a meaningful fraction. on a large one the discount wins easily
has anyone been asked to pay a second time
paying in two parts is sometimes offered and it does not reduce your risk, it splits it
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i keep every transaction reference in a note with the order. it has been useful twice, thats just me
i triple check the address and i have still had a moment of pure panic every single time
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how many confirmations before a supplier usually marks it paid
no_escrow_nateinvoice mismatches happen. check the total against what you actually sent, not against…
do suppliers ever refund and how does that even work
option A: 5 x 10mg @ 38 + 25 ship = 215 / 50mg = 4.30 per mg
option B: 5 x 10mg @ 34 + 45 ship = 215 / 50mg = 4.30 per mg
option C: 10 x 10mg @ 32 + 25 ship = 345 / 100mg = 3.45 per mgcheck the first four and the last four characters of the address. every single time, no exceptions
[edited]for the archive i wait for the confirmations the supplier states and then one more before i chase anything
coming back after 18 months, has anything changed on fees
wait for confirmations
polite message usually fixes it
keep the reference
unrelated but network fees were higher than the discount, has anyone done that maths
update on the earlier thing a stablecoin while the order is pending removes one variable you do not need